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Krista had this to say about the same
fantasy: "Many women relish the idea of meeting up with a mystery man
and going to some no-name motel with him for a wild night of uninhibited
sex. Sometimes women feel like the only people they can truly let loose
with are strangers simply because they won't be judged. And who cares
anyway? They'll probably never see the beautiful stranger again.
Francine divulged her perspective, "The idea of sharing a
passionate night with a stranger and behaving like a sexual predator
doesn't just sound inviting; it sounds delicious. And leaving after
we're done without even knowing each other's names is the best part."
Notice that in both women's review of this fantasy, being
'carried off by a golden haired Adonis' or a 'knight in shining armor'
wasn't mentioned. In fact, being 'carried off into the sunset' wasn't
mentioned either. Isabella Snow talks about "a gorgeous male
approaching her in a dark, smoky bar," and "taking her back to
his room for a long, hot night of wild sex." Krista mentions "going
to some no-name motel with him for a wild night of uninhibited sex."
While having sex is the ultimate goal of any sexual fantasy, it's
interesting that very few reviews we found about this fantasy mentioned
scenes like a beach at sunset or being taken to villa in the south of
France. Dark bars, back alleys, seedy motels and other such 'dark'
settings were the main theme for most women for this fantasy.
So the top two women's sexual fantasies involves craving wild,
dirty sex without having to suffer guilt, fantasizing about being raped,
ravaged, dominated, being forced to have sex, playing the innocent,
naive, unknowing little girl who gets taken advantage of by the devious,
predator-like man, having a man rip off her clothes and force open her
legs, being naughty, kinky, and behaving like sexual predators?
What about all the the talk we hear about women wanting romance?
What about the candy and flowers women say they want men to bring them?
What about the candle lit dinners at fancy restaurants? And what about
all the chick flicks men sit and watch with their girlfriend or spouse
when there are perfectly good porno flicks we could be watching that
have all that kinky stuff women fantasize about in them? Where's all the
mushy romance fantasies women are suppose to have???
'Fantasies Involving Romantic Sex' was on the list of women's
top ten sexual fantasies, but it didn't make the top ten. In fact, it
just barely made the top twenty. 'Fantasies Involving Romantic Sex' came
in at number 20 in our categories for the most popular fantasies. Being
number 20 out of forty six sexual fantasy categories isn't bad, in fact
it being number 20 means it did make it in the top 50%, though just
barely. What's interesting is the fact it was beaten out by fantasies
like Being the man for one night, Being an exhibitionist, Being a
prostitute or a high-priced call girl, Having sex with another woman,
Having sex in public, Having a threesome with two men, Having a man as a
sex slave, Watching other people have sex, Being a stripper, and Role
playing.
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Does anyone see a pattern here? All of those fantasies that beat
out 'Romantic Sex' are pretty kinky. Even watching other people have sex
was more popular. (Do the words 'Porno Flick' come to mind here?)
Seriously though, whether a man will admit it or not, most men
that have evolved above the Neanderthal level do enjoy a little romance
as much as a woman, but while the typical stereotype of 'women wanting
romance and men wanting sex' may forever be true, it may be possible
that while she's talking about you bringing her flowers and taking her
out for a romantic candle lit dinner for two at a fancy restaurant, she
may be fantasizing about you tearing her blouse open and ripping her bra
and panties off in the parking lot, then ravaging her body and bending
her over the hood of your car to have your way with her before someone
walks by and catches the two of you.
Guys, I'd say the next time she wants you to get dressed up take
her out to a nice restaurant, you might want not want to complain or
hesitate because there's something on TV you wanted to watch. In fact,
it might be worth getting your game on and spending a little extra time
on your personal grooming. She may not actually be fantasizing about a
wild, dirty sexual romp in the parking lot before going in the
restaurant, but then again... she might be.
A word of caution here. Whether the woman you're with is or
isn't fantasizing about any kind of rape or forced sex fantasy, never
assume that 'No' means 'Yes'. Unless the two of you have talked about
this kind of fantasy, and you've agreed on a safe word in advance, 'No'
means 'No'!
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