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Sex Up Your Bedroom Your bedroom is supposed to be your sanctuary and haven. It's a place to get away from it all and leave everyday stresses behind. Unfortunately, in real life, the bedroom is the room that gets the least attention. Instead, it becomes a dumping ground for clothes, an office to bring work home to, or another version of the TV room. Not sexy.

When decorating your bedroom, you want to make sure you create a sensual atmosphere. After all, that is where all the magic happens. Not only is a sensual bedroom conducive to sex, it will help keep your mind off daily routines.

Couples who put a little extra effort into turning their bedroom into their personal love den get even more than a peaceful getaway. These couples have found a way to put togetherness first and increase their bond with each other through inspired love play. You may not always be in the mood when you walk in the door after a long day, but one step into your passionate playground should go a long way toward stoking the fires of passion.

Sex Up Your Bedroom

"Forget the babysitter. Forget the romantic dinner and movie or the weekend getaway.
Get busy with your partner in your own bed at home. Sex with your spouse isn't just good for your marriage,
it's also free."

The Journal of Sex Research conducted a study in 2002 that found the average married couple, out of 452 studied, stopped having regular sex four years after having their first child, whether or not they had more children in those four years.

Some experts interviewed for the story blame the lack of sex on distractions like work, technology, and childcare duties. All these things can become so overwhelming that couples actually have to schedule sex.

Melissa Rayworth's (The New Celibacy: Are Generation X Parents Giving Up On Sex?) advice: "Forget the babysitter. Forget the romantic dinner and movie or the weekend getaway. Get busy with your partner in your own bed at home. Sex with your spouse isn't just good for your marriage, it's also free."

Designer Bedroom With Some Sexy Secrets.

While this may look like a typical designer bedroom, it's actually a sex playground. The designer pillows are actually sex furniture from the Liberator® Home Collection. Each item is specifically designed with sex in mind with the proper angles and support for increased penetration, depth and body support while having sex. Even the designer throw pillow with the ribbon is a Décor Stashe, a pillow with a hidden zipper pocket specifically designed for keeping your sex toys close at hand, but out of sight. All of these and more are available in the Erotic Furniture section at the Passions Unchained Sex Toy Store.

Before getting started, get rid of all the junk that accumulates in your bedroom. Don't use it as a dumping ground for kids' art projects, laundry, newspapers, and magazines. No one feels sexy going to bed in a warehouse. Get everything up off the floor, store the things that warrant it and trash the things that don't. Clear off the surfaces of chests and tables, and only replace what is meaningful or pretty. You don't want to see anything that reminds you of chores or obligations. Everything your eye lands on should make you feel relaxed and confident. Make sure to pick a comfortable bed and soft and silky bed linens.

Next you'll need to take some time out and define the purpose of your room. Think about what you want you and your partner to feel when you walk into the room. Hot sex, sentimental romance, exotic getaway or something in between? Once you determined the theme or mood of the room, don't let anything in that doesn't reflect your overall goal.

Ready to bring sexy back to your bedroom? Now that you've defined your purpose, use these tips to put it into action!

1. Romantic, Sensual & Erotic Accents

Fan the flames of passion with sensual photography, artwork, sculptures or collectibles. Try blowing up photos of cozy moments or erotic images of you and your lover in action. You can even have them professionally converted into prints. If a picture of you and your partner in a compromising position isn't something you want hanging on your wall, or you're not in a monogamous relationship, then get erotic prints of of other, anonymous couples (Read Erotic: This seldom means this month's centerfold).

2. The color of Passion

Color is the easiest and quickest way to set the mood of a room. Red is a stimulant, and is often identified as a color synonymous with sex and romance, but red is also known for bringing out aggressive behaviors and thoughts, and its psychological effects can include irritability. Purple invokes an exotic, sensual feeling while still keeping the air of relaxation, making it a favorable color choice. Other good choices include medium to dark shades of purple, blue, green, brown, grey and orange. Great accent colors include red, black, pink, white, and tan.

3. Paint the Ceiling

A 2007 study by the University of Minnesota found that high ceilings prompt more inventive thinking, and low ceilings help you focus on details. If your man's mind seems to wander rather than concentrate on your body, paint your ceiling darker than your walls to make it seem lower and increase the focus on the details... such as your nipples or your clit. If your guy seldom strays beyond missionary, paint it several shades lighter to help get his creative juices flowing.

4. TV or No TV

Most experts say keep the TV out of the bedroom. There's even been studies done that show couples that don't have a TV in the bedroom have sex twice as often as those that do. If you just have to have a TV in the bedroom, then make sure you have some adult DVDs on hand. Many couples that have been together for a while enjoy watching an X rated movie together in bed. This not only satisfies our voyeuristic tendencies (and yes, we all have them), but you might pick up a few tips for some new positions, or even a fantasy or two you and your partner can play out together.

5. Use Plants for Passion

Fresh flowers not only make your room look lovely and smell good, a recent study in the Scandinavian Journal of Psychology found that women perform better on creative tasks when in the company of plants. Choose classically foxy flora like roses, which emit a mood-enhancing chemical called phenylethylamine, or PEA. You can also surround yourself with lavender and lily of the valley, whose sweet fragrances, according to the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation, help increase arousal in men.

6. Pick the right lighting

Lighting in the bedroom should be soft and filtered. Overhead lighting is notoriously unflattering. Bright lights can detract from the ambience, and there’s nothing sexy about a well-lit room. You want shadows, highlights, and the soft glow of filtered light. Go for mood lighting and replace the white bulbs with pink or amber tinted bulbs. Everybody looks good in this light.

7. Candle Light is Always Romantic

Candles are wonderful. They create a warm, inviting & sensual ambiance to a bedroom. They also provide mystery. When purchasing candles try getting the aromatherapy candles because they work even better. Choose different colors as well. Red candles stand for sexual attraction, love, vigor, and health.. Pink candles stand for attraction of affection, winning of love, honor, success, and conquering of evil. White candles stand for purity, truth, realization of personal power, and spiritual strength. Light white & red candles together to enhance the evening's romantic atmosphere.

8. Set the Mood with Music

Be sure to include music options for your sense of sound. "One of the easiest ways to change your environment is with sound," says Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D., sex therapist and director of the Buehler Institute in Irvine, California, so keep a selection of CDs at your fingertips to set the mood. Music also helps create an audio buffer so nobody will hear what you are doing in there. CDs that focus on romance and erotic music are available online at Passions Unchained Sex Toys.

9. Fragrance

Once you’ve covered sight, sound, and touch, make sure to cover scent. Take the same approach to smell that you took to sight. Send calming or sensual scents throughout the bedroom and choose a scent that your lover and you both like. Incense is a great addition to creating a romantic bedroom. These can be the most powerful aphrodisiac because of it's sense of mysteriousness. Have you ever watched the hypnotic swirls of smoke as they escape into the air? It's almost like a love drug. Sweet smelling incense, like Rose or an actual aphrodisiac incense are extremely exotic.

10. Watch Yourself

Adding mirrors to your bedroom will add also add depth. You don't have to be blatantly obvious and put it over the bed, but a strategically placed mirror definitely adds sexy sparkle, and can really spice things up. It will add glimmer and shine, both sexy qualities. Propping up a mirror next to the bed can make you feel as sophisticated as a contestant on Charm School. Place a mirror on the longest wall. The whole room will appear twice its real width. Add a second mirror on the side wall for additional light. For a subtler visual thrill, cluster big, sturdy candles on the floor in front of a mirror to create shadows.

11. Have the Wardrobe of a Sex Goddess

Clean and organize your closet so you can keep your lingerie in a prominent position. Having your lingerie visible when the closet doors are open creates two effects. One, it's easy to get to whenever the mood strikes and two, it serves as a daily teaser for your lover. We've already covered the fact that mirrors add glimmer and shine, so you can also place a full length mirror on the inside of each closet door and give him a treat as he watches you change.

12. Baskets of Love

Keep a secret box of your love toys handy and easily accessible. Things to include could be lotions, massage oils, vibrators, cock rings and any other sex toys you both like to use. Lockable toy storage boxes are perfect for hiding your personal items from kids, roommates, guests, and others. Secret stash pillows are also great for keeping your sex toys hidden but still close at hand. Kama sutra oils and powders come in very stylish packages that are suitable for leaving on display on a nightstand or dresser top. Toibox and Toitissue storage systems look like a jewelry box or tissue box with secret compartments for hiding sex toys or valuables. These items can be purchased discreetly online at Passions Unchained Sex Toys.

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Secret Stash Pillows

Stash your sex toys and valuables and rest easy afterwards with a plush secret Stash Pillow. These pillow's contents are your little secret, thanks to a hidden compartment located behind the zipper opening. Stow your favorite toys and adult products, valuables, or anything else you don't want others to find. Don't worry, everyone will think it's just a comfortable throw pillow! Enjoy the freedom of knowing that your naughty secrets won't go any further than your bedroom! Stash Pillows are available in a variety of colors at Passions Unchained Sex Toys.

NOW AVAILABLE
Décor Stashé Pillows from the Liberator® Home Collection. These are designer throw pillows with a secret compartment for your sex toys or valuables!

Mood Killers

Keeping in mind that the boudoir is your place for love, certain objects may not be best suited for your playroom. Hidden mood killers include:

Laundry
When you're in the beginning stages of passionate play, looking over and seeing a pile of dirty clothes (or even clean ones) isn't going to help.

Clutter
Nothing is more distracting, especially to women, than clutter. Consider the minimalist approach in your bedroom and keep only things that are necessary for setting your mood.

Computers or Office Equipment
While you may need extra space for your home office, the bedroom isn't the place for it. How can you close the door on your work day if your home office is where you spend your alone time with your partner?

Photos of Children or Family Members
We all want reminders of the people we love, but the bedroom isn't always the best place for some of them. Keep the mood of the room in check with photos of pictures of the two of you together or sensual photography.

Stuffed Toys/Mementos
Stuffed toys are cute and memorable, but really, do they belong in the bedroom while you're trying to be a sex goddess? It definitely sends the opposite message of anything erotic.

Designer Secrets

Designer Secrets to a Sexy Bedroom
The best design advice to set the mood

Bedding to Spend All Day In
"Even if you’re watching your wallet, the place to spend the money is the bedding." —Cathy Hobbs, founder of Aphereä

"People will over-pillow the bed," warns designer Eric Cohler, of Eric Cohler Design Inc. It’s not sexy to have a romantic interlude put on pause while all the pillows are removed.

"For a two-person bed, you need at most two Euro-sham-size pillows (placed against the headboard), and four sleeping pillows." —Designer Rebecca Cole, Rebecca Cole Design

Flooring That Makes You Weak in the Knees
"For anything but a beach house—where wood floors are fine—you should have wall-to-wall carpeting in the bedroom." —Harry Heissmann, Senior Designer, Albert Hadley Inc.

"A wool rug with silk in it will create a beautiful shimmering effect in candlelight." —Designer Amy Lau

Window Treatments to Shut Out the World
"I love the elegance of a whole wall of drapery, ceiling to floor." —Designer Rebecca Cole

"Blackout curtains are a must in the bedroom so you can stay in bed as long as you want." —Designer Eric Cohler

Come-Hither Lighting
"The allure of the bedroom is in the lighting." —Benjamin Noriega-Ortiz

"Use gold paper on the inside of a semi-opaque or opaque lacquered paper lampshade, and it counteracts the unflattering glow of a compact fluorescent." —Harry Heissmann, senior designer, Albert Hadley Inc

Color that Flatters
"Go with your favorite color because a bedroom should have the things you love." —Cathy Hobbs, of Aphereä Design (whose own bedroom has burnt-orange walls)

"A wallpaper with depth and dimension can add color and spice to the bedroom." —Designer Amy Lau

"For the bedroom, I like a slightly shiny wall with a Venetian plaster finish." —Harry Heissmann, senior designer, Albert Hadley Inc.