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Oral Sex:
Does it Really Matter if
You Perform Oral Sex on Your Partner? |
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The #1 complaint from women about oral sex:
"Men go to fast, then they stop just when I'm ready to cum" |
The #1 complaint from men about oral sex:
"Not enough women will give head, & those that do won't
swallow." |
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According to a recent
survey, Over 50% of Men
and over 80% of Women view the Refusal to Perform
Oral Sex Reason Enough to Find Another Partner!*
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In Another survey, One
Out of Five Women said
Oral Sex is Necessary for Them to Have an Orgasm!* |
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*See the
section 'How important is oral sex?' |
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If you're
looking for a guide that will take you step by step through
every possible oral sex technique, you're going to be doing a
LOT of searching
(Google returned 26,800,000 results at the time we wrote
this), and a LOT of reading, only to find out no such thing
exists. Our goal was to create a short,
easy to remember guide that teaches you HOW to learn better oral
sex techniques that you could remember rather than write an
encyclopedia of oral sex. |
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We know many of you are
going to skip the introduction on this page
(Yeah, Yeah, who cares what other people think, just tell me what
works), So for you, the links for the different sections on this page are
below at the right so you can jump right it... |
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...But when
you're done,
before you try
what we suggest
and it turns out
your lover
doesn't like it,
come back and
read the rest of
the information
on this page to
find out WHY
they didn't like
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Why
isn't there a book or a guide I can read that will teach me all
the different tips and tricks there are to performing oral sex
so I can just learn them and drive my lover wild when I do it?
We asked ourselves that question
when we started this section, and we figured as kinky we are, if anyone could come up with one, we could.
After all, we knew the two biggest complaints men and women
have, and the basics are simple enough, so all we needed to do
was tell men to slow down and convince more women to do it.
After that, we just needed to add all of the different positions
and the different tips, techniques and variations. It seemed
possible.
We decided to get a few men and
women together and have them tell us specifically the unique
things they liked their partner to do when they were on the
receiving end of oral sex. We figured with a dozen or so men and
women, we could come up with at least two or three different
tips and tricks to get some main categories outlined, and then
we'd interview as many other men and women as necessary to nail
down all of the best ways to perform oral sex.
So with a pen and notepad in hand to
take a few notes, we called some of our staff together and set
out to put together the most comprehensive guide to oral sex we
could.
It didn't take us long to figure out that
our little notepad wasn't going to be sufficient. Rather than getting
the two or three different tips we were hoping for, we ended up with
thirty or forty, and that was while we were just getting started!
Some women liked to have the outer lips
licked first, some liked to be tongue fucked, and some liked it when a
man flicked his tongue over their clit. Some men liked to be deep
throated, some liked just the tip sucked and the shaft stroked, and one
liked it when a women would drag her teeth along his shaft and bite down
on the head while squeezing his balls as hard as she could (this one
made the other men cross their legs and cringe). With the wide
variety of information we were getting in this small setting, we could
see that the information we would get interviewing an additional 500 or
so women and men would be overwhelming!
It didn't take long
to realize that for us, or anyone to try to put together a realistic,
comprehensive guide to oral sex would not only be a daunting task, but
it would be so long (and probably so boring), it would take people
weeks, if not months to read.
People that did bother
to read it would have to
memorize thousands of different tips and techniques, or put their
computer next to their bed and keep stopping to scroll down to read the
next tip.
This wasn't
what we wanted.
It was time for us to go to our
files and do some research. We realized that if you're looking
for a comprehensive guide to oral sex, there are dozens of
books, and thousands of websites about oral sex, in fact Google
returned
26,800,000 results at the
time we wrote this article, but before you get frustrated and
keep searching the web, you might want to know that what we've
just said isn't actually anything new, and it's not just our
opinion:
"Contrary to common
belief, and many women's expectations, cunnilingus is not a
natural skill that every man and lesbian is born with.
Cunnilingus is a learned skill. If you do not take the time to
teach or learn this skill, you will never fully enjoy the
benefits. Every woman is different, so no matter how good
someone was at giving a woman oral pleasure in the past, they
still need to re-learn their technique if they change partners.
Women cannot compare notes tit for tat as they are never exactly
the same in likes and dislikes. There are physical and
psychological reasons for this. While everyone would like to
read a detailed "How-To-Guide," there is no way of creating one
that is accurate for all women. At most, one can only give
ideas and basic hints. Finding and reading women's first
hand accounts is perhaps the best way to get new ideas, but the
individual woman is the only one who can tell you what is
enjoyable for her and works best." From the book Sex for One: The Joy
of Selfloving by Betty Dodson. Copyright 1987, 1983, 1974
If you're
looking for an all-inclusive guide that will take you step by
step through every possible oral sex technique and list every
possible option, you're going to be doing a lot of searching,
and a lot of reading. Our goal was to create a very short, easy
to remember guide that teaches you HOW to learn better oral sex
techniques rather than write an encyclopedia of oral sex.
It also didn't take us long to
realize that the 'basics' weren't so basic after all. While
there may not be a different preferred technique for every
person on the planet, it was obvious that each person had their
own preferences when it came to their partner going down on
them, and these preferences were sometimes opposite of one
another which would make it impossible to do a step by step
guide for performing oral sex that suited everyone. For example,
one woman wanted a man to bring her to an orgasm by using his
fingers to stimulate her G Spot while sucking on her clit, and
another hated it when the oral pleasures were disrupted by the
intrusion of a finger. She liked her lover to bring her off by
using their top lip to rub her clit while sucking her pussy lips
deep into their mouth and sliding their tongue up and down
between them. One man liked his wife to grab his ass and make
him cum by deep throating him, but another received more
satisfaction when a woman would suck on the head while stroking
the shaft hard and fast with her hand.
Are gay men and lesbian women better
at oral sex?
When it was pointed out
that a man
should best know how to satisfy a man and a woman should best
know how to satisfy a woman, and we would probably get more
consistent feedback when talked to gay and lesbian groups,
that made sense until the bisexual members of our little 'think
tank' made it clear that this wasn't necessarily true. One
woman (we'll call her Betty) said it was easier to get a man to
do the things she liked rather than a woman. We asked her to
elaborate:
Betty explained that just because it's
two women performing cunnilingus on each other doesn't mean they're
going to like the same things. She went on to explain that she likes
having her pussy eaten soft and slow, and that another woman she knows
(who we'll call Karen) enjoys having her pussy eaten in a more
aggressive manner. Betty explained that when Karen went down on her,
Karen knew Betty liked being eaten slowly and having her clit sucked,
and this is what Karen started out doing. But as things began to get
more heated up and Karen became more sexually aroused, her knowledge of
what felt good to her and made her cum took over, and she started
pushing her face against Betty's pussy hard while tongue fucking her.
Betty went on to explain that when it was her turn to go down on Karen,
she had a hard time being as aggressive as Karen wanted her to because
it was hard for her to get her mind set on the fact that making tender
love to Karen's clit, which is what Betty enjoyed having done to her,
wasn't what Karen liked, and she kept telling Betty to eat her pussy
harder.
Of course, the same situation applies to
men, and the members of our little group that had been with multiple
partners of the same gender agreed that it can be a lot harder to
perform oral sex on a partner of the same sex if they like having
something done to them that you don't like, and visa versa. Although our
group was small an by no means represents a large percentage of bi
sexual people, any part of the gay or lesbian community (some people
were bisexual, but none were strictly same sex oriented), the general
consensus was that compatibility between members of the same sex can
become an issue, and if they couldn't relate what feels good to them to
the things that feel good to their partner, it was usually easier
to get a member of the opposite sex to do the things you liked orally
than someone of the same gender.
If that doesn't make sense to you yet,
it's like the fact that it's usually easier to train someone how to do a
job if they've never done it before than it is to take someone that's
been doing a job one way for years and re-train them do it differently.
When people get use to doing things a certain way, it's not always
easy to get them to change.
So why are we telling you all of this?
To demonstrate the point than
when it comes to satisfying a man or woman orally, short of
writing a dictionary, there is no
single set of instructions or tips that will satisfy everyone.
One man's idea of a great blowjob, such as having the head of
your dick bitten while your balls are being squeezed into
oatmeal, is another man's worst nightmare, and as we've already
demonstrated, a woman who enjoys having her pussy made love to
gently isn't going to like it when someone attacks it furiously.
Since it was obvious we couldn't come up
with a short, easy to remember guide for giving head like we did for
having anal sex, or even list a set of tips for giving good head that
would cover everyone's likes and dislikes (that would turn into a
massive website in itself, considering it took us half a page just to
explain why we couldn't do it), rather than abandon the whole idea of
including a section on oral sex, we decided it was time for us to take a
step back and rethink what needed to be said here.
A Prelude to Learning
How to Give and Receive Better Oral Sex.
As we've already seen, good
oral sex is a very complicated issue because good oral sex is
not the same thing for everyone.
Since there were so many
different things people liked and didn't like when receiving
oral sex, it was obvious that communication was mandatory,
but we knew that giving your partner instructions during oral
sex can sometimes kill the mood, and make some people defensive.
The first thing we had to do was figure
out the best way for someone to give their partner instructions.
Just like vaginal and anal sex,
telling your partner what does and doesn't feel good when
they're performing oral sex on you is essential for it to be
satisfying, and probably more so when performing oral sex, but a
lot of men and women who have satisfied previous partners orally
may take pride in the fact they were able to do so without any
instruction, and they may think you're complaining about the job
they're doing. This can be VERY bad when it happens, so don't
chance it.
Rather than wait until you're in the middle of your partner
performing cunnilingus or fellatio on you, you and your partner
need to sit down first and talk about experimenting with
different techniques.
Don't start off with the words 'We need to talk.' Men
have a tendency to immediately start thinking about all of the
possible negative things you want to talk about, so you're
already starting out with a negative attitude on his part. This
is true for some women as well.
A good way to approach a
conversation about oral sex, or any sex for that matter, might
be to say something like "Honey, I love the way you make love to my
pussy, but I want to know some of the things you think would be nice for
me try when I suck your cock". Of course, if you're a man initiating the
conversation with a woman, you would switch the body parts in that
sentence.
Ladies, some men are a little hard to
talk to. If that's the case with your man, here's a little insight for
you: Most men fear criticism, and whether they believe they are sparing
your feelings, or they fear retaliation, when given the choice of
telling you that you give the word's greatest blowjob, or telling you
that you suck at giving head (pardon the pun), he's going to opt
for the compliment, so avoid words like 'if' or 'should' when trying to
start a conversation about oral sex.
If you ask your partner "Is there anything I should be doing
differently when I give you a blowjob?" or "I want to know if
there's anything I can do better when I suck your cock." He will
probably say "No, you're wonderful at it. You don't need to change a
thing."
Just like everything else in life, all men and women are different, but
a lot of women reading this can probably identify with what
we just said.
Once you talk about trying new
oral sex techniques, you will have to set aside the time to
actually try them and then... talk about them some more.
This means that you will have to
have at least one oral session, if not more, that is a little
more 'clinical' than usual where your partner tries the
different techniques and you tell them which ones you like the
most, the ones you like the least, and the ones you don't like
at all. Of course, you will have to switch from the one
getting oral sex to the one giving it, and your partner will
have to provide you with feedback about what they do and don't
like as well.
You may know what you do like, but
it's just as important to know what you don't like!
While you may think you give the world's
greatest head, and maybe you had a previous partner or two that would go
wild when you went down on them, you have to remember what we said about
different people liking different things. Your previous partners may
have loved the way you attacked their genitals aggressively, but your
current partner may find that more annoying than satisfying, and they're
either too nervous, or too polite to say anything.
Another situation may be that you
or your current partner, or both, haven't had a lot of previous
experience with oral sex. Maybe what you're doing to one another
may feel nice, but it isn't incredible and you don't see what
the big deal is about oral sex. By taking the time to go step by
step from the least aggressive moves to the most aggressive
ones, or somewhere in between, you may both figure out why oral
sex is such a big deal to so many people.
Knowing what causes pleasure
and pain.
It's a little ironic when one man calls
another man a pussy, insinuating he's weak or soft, and saying someone
that is brave or daring has balls, because a woman's pussy is usually a
lot tougher than a man's balls. We know this doesn't hold true for
everyone, but most women enjoy having their pussy spanked, and pretty
aggressively at that, but while the shaft of most dicks are pretty tough
and can handle being smacked around, not all men can handle having their
balls squeezed.
While the pussy's clit and the
head of the cock have the most nerve endings, we're not going to
discuss the nerve density of the different areas of the pussy or
cock. Suffice it to say there are enough nerve endings in every
inch of the body to create a pleasurable sensation no matter
where you concentrate your efforts, this includes the outer lips
of the pussy and along the shaft of the cock.
If you've been with your partner
for any length of time, you probably know how aggressive you can
be, so don't try any of the aggressive techniques if you already
know the ones that will cause your partner pain.
If you only like aggressive oral
sex, and you absolutely hate it when your partner goes slow,
then there's no reason to get frustrated by trying some of the
slow techniques. While everything here is pretty mild since as
we explained, getting into exotic or extreme oral techniques
here would be too much for what we're trying to achieve here,
just skip around and check out some of the more aggressive
techniques to see if there's any you might like to add your oral
adventures.
We aren't going to list a step
by step guide to better oral sex.
We've already made it clear that
you don't want you to have to memorize a lot of exotic
techniques or stop to read the next tip or step, and to be
honest, to be able to give good head, you don't have to do
either of these things.
By going through a few steps
starting with the least intense moves, then progressing to the
more intense ones, what to next will pretty much come naturally.
So rather than try to memorize each section of our guide or even
or print it out, just read through it and you'll see what we
mean.
Remember, this isn't a
guide to teach you what to do every time. It's a learning tool
to help you discover what you do and don't want to do the next
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Learning What to
Do, and Not
To Do, When
Giving Oral Sex |
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How to
Find Out What
You Both REALLY
Do and Don't
Like! |
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Cunnilingus -
Eating a Woman's
Pussy: |
There are a
few things every
man (and woman)
needs to know
before
performing
cunnilingus:
1. The
structure of
each woman's
genitals is
different, and
will determine
what is an isn't
possible. A
woman with well
developed inner
labia may like
to have them
sucked on, while
a woman with
small or absent
inner labia will
not be able to
experience this.
2. If a
woman has
clitoris that
projects outward
or is well
developed, you
will be able to
suck on it. If a
woman has a
small or hidden
clitoris, you
may only be able
to lap at it.
3.
Nothing upsets a
woman more
during
cunnilingus than
having her
partner break
their rhythm, or
wander off the
spot, when they
are on the verge
of orgasm. So
unless you are
teasing her,
keep up your
rhythm and
intensity once
you start
bringing her
close to orgasm.
4. Never
stimulate a
woman's clit
immediately. If
a woman is not
adequately
aroused, her
clitoris will
either be overly
sensitive or
totally
insensitive to
all forms of
stimulation. You
need to wait for
her hormones to
get flowing and
for her genitals
to become
engorged with
blood. There are
more tips
regarding the
sensitivity and
lubrication of
the clit you
need to read
when we get to
the clitoral
stimulation
section of this
guide.
5. Be
very gentle
until you learn
what your
partner likes.
There are women
who require a
very light
touch; others
will find this
ticklish and
will require a
firm but gentle
touch. Still
others will not
be able to
tolerate direct
stimulation of
their clit at
all.
The outer
lips of the
pussy;
As
your partner
tries the
following
techniques, tell
him the ones you
do and don't
enjoy since he
won't be in the
best position to
read your body
language.
Besides, this
exercise is
about
communication,
not body
language and
'guessing' what
each other
likes. • Start
by gently
blowing on her
pussy (never in
it, as this can
cause internal
damage).
• Lick the skin
around the area
where her pussy
lips start.
• Kiss the outer
lips of her
pussy.
• Gently slide
the tip of your
tongue up and
down just the
outer lips of
her pussy.
• Gently slide
the tip of your
tongue along the
slit between the
pussy lips.
• Let your tongue
spread her pussy
lips slightly,
then lick up and
down just barely
on the inside of
them. • Move
your tongue in a
circular motion,
still teasing
just the inside
of the lips.
More
aggressive
techniques;
• Rather than
using the tip of
your tongue,
spread your
tongue flat and
lick the outer
lips of her
pussy
vigorously.
• Using your
teeth to nibble
on the outer
lips of the
pussy. Some
women will enjoy
a little harder
bite than
others, so
increase the
force very
slightly until
she tells you
that's hard
enough. • Use
your lips or
teeth to tug on
the outer lips
of her pussy.
Again, each
woman will have
a different
threshold where
pleasure turns
to pain, so tug
very gently at
first, then a
little harder
until she tells
you not to.
• Turn your head
to the side to
get one of her
pussy lips
between the lips
of your mouth
with your upper
lip between her
pussy lips.
Begin sucking it
into your mouth,
increasing the
amount of
suction until
she tells you
when to stop.
Next, without
tilting your
head to the
other site, move
to the other
pussy lip so
that your lower
lip is between
her pussy lips
and repeat the
process. Even
though both of
her pussy lips
will have the
same threshold
of pleasure
versus pain, you
will find that
your perception
of how hard
you're sucking
is different
when your lower
lip is between
her pussy lips
than when your
upper lip was.
• Now tilt your
head to the
other side and
repeat the
process. Without
going into a lot
of boring
details about
equilibrium and
whether you're
right handed or
left handed,
suffice it to
say that once
again you will
probably find
your perception
of how hard
you're sucking
is different.
You need to try
and make a
mental note of
this so you
don't hurt her
in the future
when you're
eating her pussy
in a less
clinical
setting.
The inner
lips of the
pussy;
• Work your
tongue a little
deeper into her
pussy until you
reach the inner
lips. If you're
not overly
familiar with
the female
anatomy, there
aren't actually
two individual
sets of pussy
lips. The inner
lips refer to
the inside of
the pussy lips,
and more
specifically the
point on the
inside of the
pussy lips where
there is a
slight fold in
the skin. On
some women, this
fold is easy to
find and does
look like a
separate set of
lips, while it's
hardly existent
on others. If
you're having
problems
locating the
inner lips, as
long as the tip
of your tongue
is just deep
enough so that
it's not
completely
inside of her
pussy (where
it's not making
contact with any
flesh), you're
probably in the
right area.
• When your
tongue reaches
the inner lips
of the pussy,
begin licking in
an up and down
motion, then
switch to a
circular motion.
Ladies, be sure
to tell your
lover which
motion you
prefer, if you
enjoy both
equally, or if
you don't like
the sensation at
all.
• Finally, insert
your tongue as
far as you can
into her pussy
and begin tongue
fucking her.
Move your tongue
in and out, up
and down, and in
circular motions
again. • Vary
your techniques
by tongue
fucking her with
your own lips
closed and
either resting
against the
outer lips of
her pussy,
puckering up and
pushing your
lips inside of
her pussy, and
opening your
mouth to let
your lips cover
the pussy.
• Most women are
going to enjoy
all of the
different
sensations, but
if there is
anything you
don't like, or
certain things
you like more,
be sure to let
your partner
know.
More aggressive
techniques;
• While you're
tongue fucking
her pussy, tip
your head and
pinch one of her
pussy lips
between your
upper teeth and
your tongue.
Although you
shouldn't have a
problem with
this move, it
may be difficult
not to bite down
too hard since
you're trying to
use your tongue
to gauge how
much pressure
you're applying.
Remember, just
because you're
only using your
top teeth
doesn't mean
they aren't
sharp and can't
hurt her, so be
careful with
this move.
• When you're
tongue fucking
her and your
mouth is open,
covering her
pussy, suck on
her pussy lips.
Some women may
not like this,
some will enjoy
a little
suction, and
others will
enjoy it when
you suck hard
enough to draw
her pussy lips
into your mouth.
The only problem
with this move
is there is
almost no way to
prevent
stimulating the
clit and causing
her to cum,
which isn't
really a
problem, but we
have been
avoiding
clitoral
stimulation up
to this point.
• When varying
your techniques
by tongue
fucking her with
your own lips
closed and
either resting
against the
outer lips of
her pussy,
puckering up and
pushing your
lips inside of
her pussy, and
opening your
mouth to let
your lips cover
the pussy, try
pushing your
mouth against
her pussy each
time, increasing
the force little
by little until
she tells you to
stop. Some women
enjoy this so
much, they won't
tell you to
stop, and you
will have to
hold their waist
to push hard
enough to
satisfy them
with this move.
You may find she
will even enjoy
a lot more
pressure against
her pussy than
your own lips
can handle.
Clitoral
stimulation:
There's no
part of the male
body that can
duplicate the
sensitivity of a
woman's clitoris
other than
poking your
finger in your
eye. As
sensitive as the
head of a man's
cock is, a
woman's clit is
probably ten
times as
sensitive. Even
so, different
women have
different levels
of sensitivity
when it comes to
their clit. Some
women enjoy
rubbing their
clit
aggressively
with a great
deal of force,
while this
causes pain for
others.
When
you begin
stimulating a
woman's clit,
you will find
even the
slightest change
in pressure or
suction will
have a major
difference, so
be more careful
than you were
when stimulating
her pussy lips,
and make your
changes in very
gradual steps.
Considering the
different
techniques you
have been
trying, the
stimulation you
have been giving
your lover's
pussy has
probably been
more than you
ever have in the
past, and she
may have already
had one or more
orgasm. Even as
methodically as
we have been
approaching the
stimulation of
the pussy lips,
most women
should be
begging for you
to pay attention
to their clit by
now, and my have
found it almost
impossible not
to reach down
and start
rubbing it
herself. Your
lips may have
been stimulating
her clit as
well, and it may
be too sensitive
to touch. If
this is the
case, you will
have to wait a
while before
moving on to
clitoral
stimulation.
If not, then now
is the time to
move from the
pussy lips to
the clit.
Some women have
a larger clit
than others, and
as they are
stimulated it
swells. It may
or may not be
poking out of
the skin that
covers it yet,
but if it's not,
it should be
swollen enough
to make it easy
to find with
only your
tongue. Bring
your tongue up
to the top of
her slit and
feel for her
clit, then make
it rise by
licking the skin
that covers it.
You may have to
lick hard and
press into her
skin some.
For some women
it's perfectly
normal if the
clit doesn't
expose itself,
so if you can't
access her clit
with only your
tongue, you will
have to expose
it using your
fingers. Never
touch a woman's
clit with a dry
finger! The clit
does not produce
any fluid, and
is not
lubricated by
her pussy
juices. Your
finger may stick
to her clit if
it's dry,
causing her
pain. You need
to get your
fingers wet,
either by using
the juice from
her pussy or
licking them,
then gently pull
the skin open to
expose her clit.
Also, don't let
your tongue get
dry when
stimulating her
clit. Since your
tongue is going
to be out of
your mouth, it
will dry out.
When you feel it
getting dry,
repeatedly spit
on her clit or
drool on it and let
the saliva from
your mouth run
down your tongue
to keep her clit
lubricated.
Drooling is the
best since you
don't have to
remove your
tongue from her
clit, and it
will keep her
clit slippery,
increasing the
pleasure she
will feel.
While the
thought of
spitting or
drooling on
their lover
disturbs some
people, it does
keep the clit
lubricated, and
most people find
it erotic. If
spitting or
drooling is
something you
can't bring
yourself to do,
or you tried it
and just can't
handle it, keep
pulling your
tongue back in
your mouth as
often as
necessary to
keep it as wet
as possible.
Whether you
spit, drool, or
pull your tongue
back in your
mouth, it is
essential that
you don't let
your tongue get
dry and stick to
her clit.
Stimulation with
the tongue;
• Once the clit
is exposed, with
just the tip of
your tongue,
start making
circles around
the base of her
clit, avoiding
the tip of the
clit as much as
possible.
• Still using
just the tip of
your tongue,
gently lick just
the very tip of
her clit, making
very light
contact.
• Continue by
applying a
little more
pressure, but
try not to apply
too much too
fast. • Start
licking harder,
moving across
the tip and
around the base.
• For many women,
especially ones
that enjoy
having their
clit loved on
gently, this
will be enough
to cause her
body to spasm as
it builds up for
a clitoral
orgasm. This is
not the time to
stop what you're
doing. Keep
licking her
entire clit
until she cums.
More
aggressive
techniques;
A word of
caution if you
try any
aggressive moves
when stimulating
a woman's clit.
If a woman isn't
sure of her
limits when it
comes to how
much stimulation
she likes on her
clit, be
EXTREMELY
careful. Even a
slight increase
in suction or
pressure may be
enough to take
her from ecstasy
to agony, and
it's doubtful
she will have
time to tell you
to ease up if
you get too
aggressive. If
she does tell
you to ease up,
and you're
foolish enough
not to listen to
her, don't blame
us if you get a
knee in the
ribcage... or
somewhere even more
painful!
• Some women like
a little more
stimulation than
others, so
rather than use
just the tip of
your tongue,
spread your
tongue out wide
and lick her
clit. While you
may be able to
provide more
precise
stimulation with
just the tip of
your tongue, you
will be able to
stimulate a
larger area with
your tongue
flattened out.
• Pucker up and
make a small 'O'
with your lips
and start
sucking on her
clit. Increase
the suction
slightly until
you find the
point that
drives her
crazy. • Very
carefully take
her clit between
your teeth and
nibble on it
GENTLY! It's
doubtful you
will be able to
use very much
pressure without
causing pain,
but then again,
there are some
women enjoy
that. • If she
is enjoying the
rough play, you
may even want to
try tugging at
her clit with
your teeth. (If
she enjoys this,
and the two of
you haven't
tried any
bondage and
discipline play
yet, I'd suggest
you get some
bondage toys
immediately. If
you don't, just
send us her name
and phone number
and I'll take it
from there!)
Stimulation with
the tongue;
• Once the clit
is exposed, with
just the tip of
your tongue,
start making
circles around
the base of her
clit, avoiding
the tip of the
clit as much as
possible.
• Still using
just the tip of
your tongue,
gently lick just
the very tip of
her clit, making
very light
contact.
• Continue by
applying a
little more
pressure, but
try not to apply
too much too
fast. • Start
licking harder,
moving across
the tip and
around the base.
• For many women,
especially ones
that enjoy
having their
clit loved on
gently, this
will be enough
to cause her
body to spasm as
it builds up for
a clitoral
orgasm. This is
not the time to
stop what you're
doing. Keep
licking her
entire clit
until she cums.
Combining
masturbation
with
Cunnilingus:
Unless
you're a famous
rock star that
started the
group KISS, and
you're known for
having an
incredibly long
tongue, it's
doubtful you
will be able to
stimulate a
woman's G Spot
with your tongue
(we're not even
sure if Gene
Simmons would
actually be able
to stimulate a
woman's G Spot
with his tongue
to be honest).
While oral sex
is incredibly
erotic and
pleasurable,
it's also very
passionate.
After all, how
much more
passionate can
you get than
making love to a
woman's pussy?
But as enjoyable
as it is, your
tongue is only
going to be able
to give her a
clitoral orgasm.
While this is
nothing to shrug
off as
insignificant,
you can use your
fingers to
stimulate her G
Spot while your
tongue is
providing
pleasure to her
clit. • If
you're not sure
where her G Spot
is, just slide a
finger into her
pussy and curl
it upward until
you feel a soft,
fleshy area.
Some women enjoy
just one finger
being inserted
into their
pussy, and
others enjoy it
when you use
two, three, or
even four
fingers to
massage her G
Spot. Although
it's usually
women that have
given birth that
can handle four
of a man's
fingers being
inserted into
their pussy, as
we have said
many times, all
women are
different.
• Another twist
on combining
masturbation
with cunnilingus
is to use your
finger to rub
her clit, or
your thumb and
finger to
squeeze it while
you tongue fuck
her pussy or
suck and nipple
on her outer
pussy lips. Just
remember to keep
your finger or
thumb and finger
wet by dipping
them into her
pussy every so
often, licking
them, or
spitting or
drooling on her
clit. • Some
women don't
produce as much
natural pussy
juice as others,
and some men
have a problem
creating enough
saliva to keep
things nice and
wet. One way to
make sure you
keep her clit
well lubed is to
use a sex lube.
• A lot of
friction isn't
necessary on the
clit, and too
much can cause
pain, so even if
you produce
enough pussy
juice to soak
the bed, sex
lubes will make
her clit even
slicker than her
own juices can,
and adding a
little lube to
her clit before
stimulating it
will send her
over the edge!
Too many people
are not aware of
the risk they
may be taking of
causing an
infection by
using foods and
other products
in their mouth
to help mask the
flavor of their
partner's pussy
juice or semen.
Whether you like taste
of a woman's pussy or
not, there are a lot of
different
oral sex mints and
oral sex gels to add
some flavor, and some
variety. While some
breath mints may taste
good, the sugar used in
them isn't the best
thing to help prevent
infection, and the sugar
substitutes and
flavorings they use may
not be either.
Mentholated cough drops
may provide an intense
sensation, but they
weren't designed to be
used inside of a pussy
either. Women, don't
forget that when you're
giving your man a blow
job, even though his
dick is an external
organ, the opening will
be subject to infection
as well from the sugars
and flavorings used in
breath mints and cough
drops as well.
Even food can cause
infections, so stay out
of the kitchen when
you're looking for new
flavors when you're
having oral sex.
Like everything else you
try, don't risk your health or your partners health by using items that
weren't intended for sexual experimentation. Stick with products that
were designed specifically for
oral sex to use on or in a woman's pussy and a man's cock to make
sure you're not putting your partner at risk.
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Learning What to
Do, and Not
To Do, When
Giving Oral Sex |
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How to
Find Out What
You Both REALLY
Do and Don't
Like! |
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Fellatio -
Sucking a Man's
Cock |
Since a man's
cock tends to bounce around, you'll probably have to use your hand to
hold it still. Use as little pressure as possible with your hand since
we're dealing with strictly oral stimulation here.
The shaft of
the cock;
As your partner
tries the
following
techniques, tell
her the ones you
do and don't
enjoy since she
won't be in the
best position to
read your body
language.
Besides, this
exercise is
about
communication,
not body
language and
'guessing' what
each other
likes.
• Start by gently
licking up and
down the shaft
with the tip of
your tongue
only, stopping
occasionally to
blow on it.
Since this is an
experiment with
different
techniques than
what he may be
use to, for now
you need to
avoid contact of
any kind with
the head and
don't take his
cock into your
mouth... no
matter how much
he begs.
• Move toward the
base and lick
the area where
the shaft ends.
• Kiss your way
up and down the
shaft from the
base to just
below the head.
• Start licking
again, still
using only the
the tip of your
tongue, but this
time work your
way around the
shaft rather
than up and
down. This will
require you
moving your head
around his cock
to avoid taking
it into your
mouth.
More
aggressive
techniques;
• Try using your
teeth and let
them gently
scrape over the
shaft.
• Bite down
gently on the
shaft,
increasing
pressure until
he says stop.
• Trap a small
bit of skin
along the edge
and bite down on
it gently while
pulling it. Use
extreme caution
as the skin is
already
stretched from
his erection.
The balls;
• Work your way
down the shaft
to his balls and
begin kissing
them gently.
• Lick them with
just the tip of
your tongue,
stopping
occasionally to
blow on them.
More
aggressive
techniques;
• Nibble
on the skin of
the scrotum sack
some, pulling on
it in different
areas with your
teeth. The skin
on a man's balls
will be easier
to stretch than
it is on the
shaft.
• Continue biting
and pulling
harder until he
lets you know
when pleasure
turns to pain.
• As always, use
caution when
biting any flesh
since your teeth
can cut much
easier than most
people realize.
Back to the
shaft;
• After
stimulating his
balls, move back
to the shaft,
but this time
begin licking up
and down with
the surface of
your tongue
rather than just
the tip.
• Work your
tongue around
his shaft moving
from the base to
just below the
head. Spend
enough time to
lick the entire
surface seven or
eight times.
• After
thoroughly
giving the shaft
a tongue bath,
place your lips
against just the
shaft and suck
on it, still
avoiding the
head.
More
aggressive
techniques;
• While sucking
on the shaft
with your lips,
bite down gently
on it,
increasing your
pressure each
time until he
says it's hard
enough.
The head;
Since
we are avoiding
the use of the
hands for now,
return to using
just the tip of
your tongue on
the shaft and
work your way up
to just the base
of the head. For
un-circumcised
men, you will
have to use your
hands to pull
the skin down to
expose the head.
• Work the tip of
your tongue
around the base
of the head a
few times.
• Rather than
work your way up
the head, stop
completely and
turn your
attention to
just the opening
(the hole in the
tip).
• Use the tip of
your tongue to
lick just the
tiny hole in his
cock, stopping
to blow on it
occasionally
(like the pussy,
never try to
blow into the
hole of a man's
cock).
• Now begin
circling the
head of his cock
with the tip of
your tongue.
• Once you have
thoroughly
tortured the
head of his cock
with the tip of
your tongue,
don't start
sucking on it
yet. Instead,
flatten your
tongue out and
give the head of
his cock a nice
tongue bath.
• By now, the
head of his cock
should be
throbbing and
the shaft should
be jerking with
anticipation. If
it isn't
continue teasing
the head some
more with your
tongue.
More
aggressive
techniques;
• Still avoiding
any sucking,
scrape your
teeth over the
surface of the
head gently.
• Bite down
carefully on the
head of his
cock, but like
your clit, a
little pressure
goes a long way,
so don't get too
aggressive too
fast, as
pleasure can
turn to pain
very quickly.
Applying
suction;
• Remember the
things he said
he liked,
because even
though we're
going to move on
to sucking his
cock now, once
you know what he
likes, you can
drive him crazy
the next time by
spending a lot
of time teasing
the shaft and
balls.
• Start by taking
only the tip of
the head between
your lips and
apply a little
suction.
• Move farther
down until just
the head of his
cock is in your
mouth and spend
a little time
sucking on it.
• Use your tongue
to play with the
hole and circle
the head of his
cock while
you're sucking
on it.
More
aggressive
techniques;
• Bite down
gently just at
the base of the
head, but use
extreme caution.
The skin in this
area can tear
easily on some
men.
• You can usually
suck as hard as
you want on a
man's cock
without any
worry of hurting
him, even the
head, so
increase the
suction more and
more until he
says it's
enough. If you
end up sucking
as hard as you
can and he
doesn't object,
vary your
suction from
mild to intense.
Moving down
the shaft;
• Rather than go
from sucking on
the head of his
cock to deep throating him,
continue taking
his cock in your
mouth slowly,
stopping every
inch or so to
suck and tease
it with your
tongue.
• Vary your
suction like you
did with the
head of his
cock. If he did
have you stop
before you were
sucking as hard
as you can on
his head, this
shouldn't be an
issue once your
lips are around
his shaft. (If
you can't suck
as hard as you
want, and this
has happened
with other men
you've known...
be sure YOU send
us YOUR name and
phone number!)
• When you have
made your way to
the base, or
you've taken as
much of his cock
in your mouth as
you can, work
your way back to
the head inch by
inch, just like
you did working
your way down.
• Use your tongue
as much as
possible,
circling the
shaft and head,
and as you move
back up the
shaft far
enough, use the
tip of your
tongue to poke
and play with
the hole.
Combining
Masturbation
with fellatio;
• Rather than
just jerk him
off at this
point, whether
you swallow or
not, try slow
strokes and cup
your hand over
the tip of the
head. Make sure
to repeatedly
lube your hand
with your
saliva, or if
you're using a
flavored gel to
perform
fellatio, put a
little extra on
your hands
before you use
them to fondle
his cock. Moving
back and forth
between using
your hands and
your mouth will
allow you to
keep him
tantalized and
help you control
how long it
takes him to
cum.
Finishing
him off;
• Lean over and
take his cock as
deep into your
throat as
possible. If
you're standing,
move your hands
to his ass for
support and
better control.
Start stroking
his shaft with
your mouth
slowly at first,
then begin
moving your
mouth up and
down the shaft
faster until you
feel his muscles
tighten and he
begins to
ejaculate. Most
men will be able
to cum from this
stimulation, it
just may take a
lot longer than
either of you
are use to. For
men that do need
more friction to
cum, you may
have to use your
hand to finish
off, and many
couples find it
more erotic if
the man jerks
himself off into
the woman's
mouth. If you've
never tried
this, it adds
visual
stimulation for
both the man and
the woman. Since
a man can only
cum once, if
you've limited
yourself to any
one particular
technique in the
past, then try
one of the other
ones. For women
who have a
problem letting
a man cum in
their mouth, see
the tips for
swallowing in
the next section
on this page.
Just like the fact that
some men don't like the
taste of a woman's
pussy, some women don't
like the taste of a
man's cum.
For the benefit of those
that didn't read the
section on cunnilingus,
or skipped the
information at the end,
we are repeating it here
because too many people
are not aware of the
risk they may be taking
of causing an infection
by using foods and other
products in their mouth
to help mask the flavor
of their partner's pussy
juice or semen.
Whether you like taste
of a man's cum, or
whether you swallow his
cum or not, there are a
lot of different
oral sex mints and
oral sex gels to add
some flavor, and some
variety. While some
breath mints may taste
good, the sugar used in
them isn't the best
thing to help prevent
infection, and the sugar
substitutes and
flavorings they use may
not be either.
Mentholated cough drops
may provide an intense
sensation, but they
weren't designed to be
used on a man's cock
either. Don't forget
that even though a man's
dick is an external
organ, the opening will
be subject to infection
as well from the sugars
and flavorings used in
breath mints and cough
drops as well.
Even food can cause
infections, so stay out
of the kitchen when
you're looking for new
flavors when you're
having oral sex.
Like everything else you
try, don't risk your health or your partners health by using items that
weren't intended for sexual experimentation. Stick with products that
were designed specifically for
oral sex to use on or in a woman's pussy and a man's cock to make
sure you're not putting your partner at risk.
Once you and your lover have taken
the time to try the different techniques for cunnilingus and
fellatio, and you have told one another the things you enjoyed
the most, the things you enjoyed somewhat, the things you liked
but wouldn't want them to do every time, and the things you
didn't like (if any), you can perfect your oral techniques by
varying the time you spend doing the different things. You
obviously want to keep in mind the things they liked the most,
but don't just limit yourself to doing the same thing every
time.
Even though everyone is
different, most people will agree to some extent that one of the
best ways to please someone orally is to do the things that get
them off the easiest, but then switch to something else before
they cum to bring them back down. This type of sexual emotional
roller coaster can produce some of the most intense orgasms
possible, and of course, it works with vaginal sex, anal sex,
and when masturbating your partner.
Guys, don't forget the women's
number one complaint that we go too fast and stop too soon. Even
if you think your a god when it comes to eating a woman's pussy,
some women will try to spare a man's feelings by not telling him
he's only so-so in the pussy eating department, and your woman
could be one of them. Go slow, and even if you're going to take
her to the edge and then bring her back down, before you stop
completely get your mouth or your tongue on her clit and don't
stop until she is clawing at the sheets and her body is writhing
from the massive waves of orgasmic pleasure you are giving her.
Ladies, remember that a man's
number one complaint is the fact there's not enough of you that
are even willing to give a man a blowjob, and too many of you
won't swallow when you do. I know a lot of women have an
emotional hang up about sucking a man's cock because they think
it's nasty, but great sex means being naughty and nasty when
you're alone with your lover. As far as swallowing, it's true
that a man's cum is an acquired taste, and a woman's juices are
as well, but there are plenty of safe oral sex mints and oral
sex gels on the market that can help cover up the taste.
If any of you have read this far,
but have decided that performing oral sex isn't something you're
willing to do, I suggest you either scroll down to the section
titled 'How Important is Oral Sex?" or go back to the top of the
page and use the link to find it. You may be surprised how many
men and women say they are willing to call it quits in a
relationship because their partner won't perform oral sex. If
this doesn't bother you, and you have the attitude that 'if my
partner would leave me over something as stupid as oral sex,
then they weren't the right person for me anyway', you may be
right, just don't be surprised if they decide the same thing and
before you know it, they're telling you they have found someone
else that might be a better match for them.
All forms of sex, including oral
sex, is an important part of a relationship. If the sex gets
boring, the relationship does too.
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Tips for
Deep Throating and
Positions for oral sex:
Deep Throating:
It's
important to understand that most people relate the term deep throating
to not only taking a man's cock as far into your throat as possible, but
swallowing his cum as well. As far as being able to take a man's cock
deep into your throat, it's all about learning self control. Just like
learning how to accept a man's cock in your ass without pain involves
teaching yourself to control your anal muscles, learning to deep throat
involves teaching yourself to control your gag reflex. There is a
position that will help with this. If a woman lies on her back with her
head hanging over the edge of the bed, then tips her head back while the
man stands or kneels in front of her, this opens the throat and creates
a straight shot for his cock to go farther into her throat. Most women
can take a man much deeper into her throat in this position, and she is
less likely to gag.
Tips for Swallowing
Nature's Love Cocktail :
"I have a hard time with the taste of semen, so I hold my breath
since you can't taste anything when you hold your breath. It helps."
"When I give head, swallowing is just part of it. You haven't
really finished what you started if you don't swallow. I don't think
spitting it out is very nice, and it insults the guy you're with. I
think it makes guys feel better about you afterwards when you swallow."
"When I suck my husband off I let his semen pool under my tongue
near the front of my mouth and. Then I keep sucking his cock long after
he shoots his load. This accomplishes two things. One, he gets sucked
dry, which is something he loves, and two, it gives my mouth time to
make more saliva to dilute his semen that's under my tongue. When he
shoots a huge load and my mouth's full of semen, I swallow it all at
once."
Approximately 98% of all
women agreed that taking
the man's cock as deep
in your throat as
possible is the best way
to avoid the taste.
We went through about
300 different tips women
had for swallowing a
man's cum, and while we
did run across some
interesting ideas, we
narrowed the list down
to the tips that were
specifically from women
that didn't like the
taste of semen. About
98% said that when a man
was ready to cum, since
the taste buds are on
the tongue rather than
the back of the throat,
if they took the man's
cock as far into their
throat as possible, they
either didn't taste it
as much, or not at all.
"When your man is
ejaculating, make sure
his cock is deep down in
the back of your mouth,
or sometimes your
throat. This way it is
easier to swallow,
without the taste!"
"I find that if I let
him cum as deep as I can
get him, it slides down
my throat, and avoids my
tongue and most of my
taste buds"
"Swallowing really isn't
that bad at all. In
fact, if you get the
technique down, you
hardly taste it. You can
let his cum hit the back
of your throat, totally
bypassing your
tongue...and voila! He's
happy and you don't make
any funny faces at the
taste of it. Hell, think
of what he does do you."
"I've always swallowed.
Now, I love seeing the
look on my husband's
face as our eyes are
locked on the other's
and he shoots his
streams of cum into my
mouth. It's just
magical. However the
taste is something that
I've never really gotten
used to. Over the years
I've learned to deep
throat him completely
even though he's about 8
inches and average
thickness. I've learned
from asking him that
it's almost more
enjoyable for him to cum
while he's in my throat
than it is when he's
shooting it all over my
tongue and the back of
my mouth. The big
advantage it gives me
when I deep throat him
and he comes is that I
never taste it. When I
sense he's starting to
have his orgasm I just
take a deep breath and
push his cock down my
throat as far as I can
and begin swallowing.
That method hasn't
failed to make him have
an immediate orgasm. He
says my swallowing
almost feels like I'm
finishing him off with a
hand job around the head
of his cock."
Mints, drops and gels
designed for oral sex
not only add flavor to
help mask your lover's
natural taste, but some
help to numb the mouth,
making it easier to deep
throat.
Even when deep throating, a lot of people
have trouble acquiring a taste for their partner's cum, and refuse to
swallow because of it. Many of them have found sucking on a breath mint
or cough drop while performing oral sex helps cover the taste, but as we
mentioned, breath mints (even sugar free ones), cough drops, and even
food is fine for your mouth, but they can cause infections inside a
woman's pussy, and inside a man's cock due to the sugars and flavorings
used in them. That's why using products designed for oral sex like an
oral sex mint, oral sex drops, or an oral sex gel is recommended.
People are different, and when it comes to
using oral sex mints, drops and gels, some people find one mint is
sufficient, while others need two. What's important to understand is
that while they do add flavor, a numbing sensation, or a cooling effect,
they aren't breath mints or candy, and they aren't going to taste like
breath mints or candy. Most of them contain chemicals to produce the
numbing and cooling effects to help cover the taste of a man's cum or a
woman's pussy juice, as well as providing a pleasing sensation for your
partner. Even though some people like the flavor of the oral
mints, drops and gels, a lot of people compare the taste to a cough
drop. Very few people don't like the taste, just don't expect to pop one
in your mouth and have it taste exactly like a breath mint.
Before you're too quick to ignore the
warnings we give about using regular breath mints or even cough drops
because mints and gels designed for oral sex contain artificial flavors
and sugar as well, it's important to understand that all sugars
(disaccharides) are not created equal.
Most people will remember the
natural sugars fructose (fruit sugars), sucrose (table sugars), and
lactose (milk sugars) from their school science class, the 'softer'
breath mints and sugar free hard mints usually use artificial sweeteners
like Sucralose, Stevia, Saccharin, Aspartame, Acesulfame-K, or Sorbitol
and mannitol (sugars derived from alcohol). The mouth creates bacteria
to feed on simple sugars, and in turn the bacteria increase the acidity
of your mouth. The bacteria that the mouth creates doesn't cause
infections in the mouth or the digestive tract because of the acids our
bodies create, but the pussy and the cock don't create digestive acids,
and they are susceptible to infection from different bacteria.
Once you
move beyond the sweeteners, different artificial flavorings and
colorings come into play. It would take a book to list them all, but
different body parts are going to react to different chemicals, and
while the manufacturers of the mints used to freshen your breath aren't
going to add chemicals that will harm your mouth, they don't have to be
concerned whether some of these additives will cause infections when
used for oral sex, because that's not what the products are designed
for. Even though some of the contents in the mints, drops and gels
designed for oral sex may be the same as some contents found in other
products, the other contents, and the quantity of various chemicals, is
where the problems can start.
We will say that there are
probably some breath mints that may not have an adverse affect on some
people, but the exact same product can create major problems for others.
If you've already used a particular product in the past and haven't
experienced any infections, chances are it's safe for you to continue
using it as long as the manufacturer doesn't change the ingredients, or
you don't change the quantity or frequency of your use. We have never
heard of a product that
Passions Unchained Sex Toys, Adam & Eve,
Hustler Hollywood, or
Angels Toy Store carries that is
designed for oral sex causing any kind of infection, so if you're
experimenting, and considering popping a breath mint into your mouth
you've never tried before, even if you have a friend that's used it, and
it does cause an infection or other problem, then all we can do is say
that we did try to warn you about the possible risk.
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69
and other fun
Positions for Oral Sex.
While the most common
position for oral sex is
the receiving partner
laying on their back
while their partner
satisfies them, the
positions for oral sex
are only limited by your
imagination. Your
partner can be sitting,
laying down, standing on
their feet, laying on a
sex wedge and ramp, or
standing on their head
it that's what turns you
both on.
Since oral love making
can go on for extended
periods of time, both
partners need to find a
comfortable position to
be in.
You do not want the
person performing oral
sex to get a sore or
stiff neck, and you do
not want the recipient
to get tired holding
their own weight up for
long periods of time.
Take some time to find a
comfortable position
before you get started,
and don't be afraid to
use pillows or sex
furniture. The most
popular piece of sex
furniture for oral,
vaginal, and anal sex is
probably the
Liberator Ramp & Wedge
Combo.
We recommend using the
combo to anyone that
wants to add new
positions to any of
their sexual activities,
including oral sex.
Mutual
oral sex is done in the
"69" or "Yin - Yang"
position. While it is
most commonly performed
by one partner laying on
their back while the
other straddles them, it
can be just as
satisfying with both
partners laying on their
side.
There are couples who
find either of these
positions very enjoyable
since they are feeding
off each other's arousal
and orgasm. Others find
they cannot concentrate
on what they are doing
to their partner, and
get so caught up in
their own pleasure they
forget to stimulate
their partner. Some
become so distracted by
what they are doing that
they cannot experience
orgasm. So only trial
and error will tell you
if this the 69 position
is a good one for you
and your partner to try.
For an even more exotic
thrills, there's the
standing sixty nine,
many men like to stand
up and hold the woman
upside down. To take
some of the pressure off
the man's back, the
woman usually bends at
the hips, which is at
his face level, and
places her thighs on his
shoulders to help
support her weight.
Obviously, the standing
sixty nine requires that
the man be in very good
physical condition, and
it's usually more for
show than anything, but
if you and your partner
can achieve this
position, between the
emotional rush and the
strain on both of your
muscles, the orgasms you
reach can be very
intense! Before you give
this one a try, make
sure you understand the
risks of possible injury
due to muscle strain.
An option for couples
that aren't quite able
to achieve the standing
69 is the sitting 69.
The man can sit on a
couch or in a chair,
then the woman can
position herself upside
down, placing her legs
on his shoulders for
support, or even on the
back of the couch or
chair is the back is
approximately level with
the man's shoulders.
This position offers an
exotic option for men
that may have back
problems and aren't able
to hold their partner in
a standing position,
just make sure you're
not driving your woman's
head into the couch if
you start pushing your
mouth hard against her
pussy.
Your health, age,
weight, and flexibility
will determine which
position or positions are best for
you. Although trying an
exotic position can be
fun, and we do recommend
trying the standing or
sitting 69 at least once
in your life if you are
able to, constantly
using a fancy position
gains you nothing if you
tire or your muscles
become stiff and sore.
Another
variation on the sixty nine position combines oral sex with
masturbation. Some women have a problem performing fellatio, but
their partner enjoys performing cunnilingus. To provide the
mutual satisfaction other couples enjoy from the sixty nine
position, the man can lay on his back while the woman straddles
his face. As he eats her pussy, the woman can jerk him off.
While this may not provide the same level
of emotional satisfaction as mutual oral sex, if the couple have already
come to terms with the woman not being able to perform fellatio, it does
offer the mutual satisfaction of the 69 position.
While we're on the subject of the
emotional satisfaction of oral sex, we should mention that some men and
women view their partners refusal to perform oral sex reason enough to
find another partner! We talk more about this in the section below.
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How important is oral
sex?
According
to a 2006 survey we did
for
PassionsUnchained.com
(see excerpt of the
survey below),
when asked 'Would you
continue to date someone
who would not go down on
you?' 65% of men said
no, they would not
continue to date someone
who would not go down on
them.
Since it's easy to say
one thing in a survey,
and do something very
different in real life
where emotions come into
play, we can probably
adjust that number and
say that roughly half of
the men would actually
look for a new partner
if their current one
refused to give them
oral sex.
So how many man are
getting their cock
sucked? When asked 'Do
you perform oral sex on
your partner?', 57% of
women said yes, they
perform oral sex.
Since half of the men
think receiving oral sex
from their partner is
important enough to be
determining factor in
whether or not they will
continue to date
someone, and a little
over half of the women
perform oral sex, it
sounds like there's a
50-50 chance that men
who feel oral sex is a
deciding factor in their
relationship are are
either with someone that
agrees, or have the
chance to find someone
that will give them oral
sex.
50% of men that feel
oral sex is important
enough to be a deciding
factor in a relationship
is a pretty impressive
number.
But how how important is
oral sex is to women?
In the same survey, when
women answered the same
question 'Would you
continue to date someone
who would not go down on
you?', a whopping
87% of women said no,
they would not continue
to date someone who
would not go down on
them!
Again, adjusting for the
possibility of an
emotional attachment
that might change their
mind, we'll adjust that
number to 75%... but
that's still three
fourths of women
that think having their
partner go down on them
is important enough to
either stay with a lover
or find a new one!
So how women are getting
their pussy eaten? When
men answered the
question 'Do you perform
oral sex on your
partner?' 99% of men
answered yes, they
perform oral sex!
If more men are
performing oral sex than
there are women who
think it's important
enough to be a deciding
factor in a
relationship, even
taking into
consideration some of
these men may be gay,
and even if we adjust
the numbers for the
people that didn't
participate in the
survey and estimate that
only 75% of all men will
actually go down on a
woman, it still sounds
like the majority of
women have don't have to
worry about getting some
oral action from a man.
In another survey done
by Glamour Magazine in
2000, the question was
asked "Do you need extra
stimulation to orgasm?",
the women's answers
were:
I need "a hand" 38%
I can do it just from
intercourse 28%
I need oral sex 21%
Other 10%
I need a vibrator 3%
While the need for oral
sex was behind
masturbation or no extra
stimulation, it's
important to realize
that the question isn't
asking if they 'like' or
'enjoy' oral sex, it's
asking if they need
extra stimulation.
21% of women chose oral
sex, so one out of
five women are saying
oral sex is necessary
for them to have an
orgasm!
We know there are a lot
of variables that can
cause survey results to
vary, and there are a
lot of people that won't
participate in a survey
about sex, the results
from those that did
participate are still
interesting, and do give
us some insight to how
important oral sex is to
both men and women.
Another way to help us
understand how important
oral sex is to us as a
species is to take a
look at the number of
searches done on the web
for oral sex and related
terms each year. Take a
look at the different
terms used, and the
number of searches
people did for oral sex
and related terms in
2006:
oral sex (18,460),
oral sex techniques
(1,712), free oral sex
movie (800), oral sex
tips (800), gay oral
sex (538), how to
give 0ral sex (400),
lesbian 0ral sex (381),
perform 0ral sex
(340), 0ral position
sex (317), women
forced to give oral sex
(300), teen oral sex
(250), oral picture sex
(210), free oral sex
videos (200), oral sex
pictures (200), oral
sex positions (200),
oral sex guide
(200), 0ral sex tip
(192), 0ral sex video
(178), give oral sex
(177), 0ral sex
technique (102),
free oral sex video
(83), free oral sex
(75), oral sex woman
(61), hiv oral sex (52),
movie oral sex (45),
oral photo sex (39),
black 0ral sex (39),
0ral sex story (36),
female oral sex (35),
mature 0ral sex
(32), anal oral sex
(32), free oral picture
sex (32),
Even though some of the
searches were for things
like 'free oral sex'
(we're not quite sure
what those 75 people
were actually looking
for), there were still
over 20,000 searches for
oral sex, techniques,
how to, positions and
more.
Would you
be surprised to find out that women
are more likely to
leave a man that won't perform oral sex on them than men
are!
Although we were please to find out that 99% of men do
perform oral sex on their partner,
we were a little surprised to see that only 57% of men
swallowed a woman's pussy juice!
Another pleasant surprise was the fact that 87% of the
women that did suck a man's cock
swallowed his cum, but a major disappointment was
finding out a mere 57% of women
actually do suck a man's cock!
Although 65% of men answered no when asked if they would
continue to date a woman that
wouldn't go down on them, a whopping 87% of women
answered no to the same question!
Girls, more of you said you wouldn't keep dating a guy
that won't go down on you, but just
over half of you return the favor, so what's the
deal with that?
Excerpt on oral sex from
a 2006 sex survey conducted for PassionsUnchained.com
To view the entire survey, visit the
Sex Q&A section at
PassionsUnchained.com
Oral
Sex:
• Do you perform oral sex on your
partner?
Men:
• Yes 99%
• No 1%
Women:
• Yes 57%
• No 43%
• Men, do you like to swallow a
woman's pussy juices?
• Yes 22%
•
No 78%
• Girls, when you give head, what
do you do with a man's cum?
• I spit it out. 11%
•
I swallow it. 87%
• I won't let a man cum in my mouth. 2%
•
Would you
continue to date someone who would not go down on you?
Men:
• Yes 35%
• No 65%
Women:
• Yes 13%
•
No 87%
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| Survey Information:
Both men and women were given the opportunity to answer
voluntarily and anonymously on line in adult oriented
group settings. All answers were multiple choice. The
total number of answers given by others were not visible
to the participants until they answered the questions.
Each person was only allowed to answer each question
once. The total number of participants varied by
question. Not all of the same people necessarily
answered each question. Unless a question was gender
specific, the gender of the person answering may or my
not have been requested. All percentages are averaged.
Answers with less than 00.5% rating were averaged as 0%.
Questions may have been asked in separate surveys.
Questions may have been edited here for content or
length. If edited, the integrity of the question was
retained. No guarantee of the accuracy or honesty of the
replies are made. Similar surveys may result in
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Other Oral Sex Tips:
While many people have heard about the
'chilling' sensation created during oral sex by sucking on a mentholated
cough drop, you can still enjoy this thrill without the risk of
infection with the menthol flavored oral gels. For a little 'warm up' in
your oral endeavors, try the cinnamon flavors. Yummy!
One safe option you can find in the kitchen
is ice! Although this can be a little too intense for some, ice can be a
chilling addition to your oral fun.
If you love the feel of a vibrator, it's
easy for a man (or woman) to insert a vibrator into a woman's pussy
while stimulating her clit with the tongue, but it's not so easy for a
woman to take a man's cock and a vibrator into her mouth. Until now that
is. Products like tongue vibrators allows a woman to add
vibrations to her man's fellatio fun without her having to remove his
cock from her mouth! Men can also use them on a woman while cunnying her
cunt, keeping his hands free to play with her tits, her nipples, or
while fingering her ass to bring her to earth shattering orgasms!
AWESOME!
Speaking of fingering your partner's ass,
many men and women enjoy a little ass play while being given head. Even
those individuals that aren't anal aficionados enjoy a little pressing,
poking or probing on their anus when their lover is satisfying them
orally. If your partner does enjoy anal penetration, since fucking her
ass with your cock, or his with a strap on while performing oral sex
isn't possible, you can add to their ecstasy by using a butt plug or
other
Anal Sex Toy.
Using
an adult How - To Movie. Let's face it, sometimes it's a lot easier to
learn something by watching someone else, and the best way to learn
about oral sex is to watch other people that know what they're doing.
For people that have a hard time talking to their partner about sex,
using an adult How - To Movie can make it easier to start a conversation
about learning new oral sex techniques. While going through the steps we
gave you may be pleasurable, it will be more clinical than emotional
because you have to pay attention and talk about what your partner is
doing rather than just enjoying it. Watching an adult How - To movie in
advance to see how other people approach the learning experience can
help take a little of the nervous edge off of your own learning session (Available
at:
Passions Unchained Sex Toys
Adam & Eve
Sex Toys
Hustler Hollywood
Angels Toy Store ).
Oral sex is unique in the fact that not only
does it have a that 'naughty girl' feel to it like anal sex, but it's
also one of the most intimate sex acts you can perform on your lover.
Tits, ass, lips, eyes, fingers... they're all nice, and they all combine
to create the person each of us are, but a woman's pussy is her most
intimate possession, just as a man's cock is his, so what can be more
special, or more intimate, than taking time once in a while to make love
to that one special part of your lover's body?
Whatever other resources
you do use, or if you
only use the guide we
created, just remember
that whether you're good
at giving head or not,
or you think you are,
you might be able to
become better. If you
want to improve your
oral sex life, start
with communication, then
experimentation, then
afterwards be sure to
spend a lot of time
practicing to perfect
your new talents. Both
of you will be glad you
did.
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