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Bondage & Fetish Wear:
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Whether you consider yourself kinky or not, we all enjoy
being a little naughty once in a while, but too often
many people that are interested in playing out a bondage
fantasy with their partner feel like they're 'stepping
over' to some kind of dark side. This is understandable
since playing out any kind of sexual fantasy can be a
little intimidating for some people.
Like any role play fantasy, playing out a bondage
fantasy simply involves stepping outside of your normal
routine and exploring new avenues of sexual adventure
rather than 'stepping over' into some dark world.
If you're new to bondage, one of the easiest ways to get
your fantasy rolling is to start by dressing up for your
role as either the Dominant or the subordinate partner.
Dressing for the part of a Dom, Domme or sub will help
to make your bondage fantasy more enjoyable, and it will
help to get you both into the fantasy roles you are
playing.
While some of the more exotic leather Domme outfits can
cost hundreds or even thousands of dollars, you don't
have to spend a small fortune to 'look' the part. The
right corset or bustier, g-string, thong, stockings and
a pair of stiletto heels or boots can be used to create
an erotic and effective Dominatrix outfit, and there are
plenty of leather or faux leather jocks, briefs and
harnesses with studs and attaching rings for men!
There are also complete
fetish outfits for around $30
that are made from stretchable faux leather. These
not only give you the look you are after, but the
stretch fabric makes them comfortable as well.
Add a pair of high heel shoes or boots from
Ellie Shoes
(available at Passions Unchained Sex Toys in sizes 6
through 10 for around $30 to $50), and you can easily
create an entire bondage role play outfit for under
$100! |
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I Don't
Have a Thing to Wear |
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An open cup bra
and panty allows easy access
to
your nipples & pussy when your hands are tied. |
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A black jock,
brief or boxer with studded trim
will help add to the drama for your bondage
play. |
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Some full figured
women prefer the way a bustier.
corset, babydoll or even a teddy helps conceal
to
certain areas while still giving their lover
easy
access to their body. All of these can be used
as an effective costume in a bondage fantasy. |
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Bustiers and
corsets sold on adult
web sites are
designed with sex in
mind, so they are usually a
lot more erotic when it comes to their
styling than
ones sold in lingerie stores or on mainstream web sites. |
Leather, vinyl or
materials that look like leather are
always a popular choice for a Domme
or sub in a
bondage fantasy. Materials like vinyl and
pleather
can give you the leather look without the
high price. |
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The Merry Widows
sold on adult web sites are
usually designed more for style rather than
function,
and are a lot sexier than today's nylon and
lycra
'body shaper' that has replaced the merry widow. |
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Made of stretch
faux leather, fetish outfits like the
Medusa
give you the BDSM look for around $30.
Add a pair of Ellie thigh high boots
like the ones shown
for
about $50 at Passions Unchained Sex Toys, and
you
have a
complete Domme or sub outfit for under $100! |
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If you're a woman and
you're going to be the 'slave' or 'sub', you don't want
to wear clothing that is going to take too much time to
remove. You can always start out nude, but it's
more fun if you can make things a little more
interesting by wearing some lingerie that fits your
submissive role.
While a slave fantasy might not mean your wrists are
bound (see 'Subs
Versus Slaves'),
if your wrists are going to be bound to each other, to the wall, bed, or other fixed object, you'll want
to choose your panties and lingerie carefully so your
Dom (or Domme as the case may be) has
easy access to your breasts, nipples, ass and pussy without
having
to remove your restraints.
A sexy g-string, a thong or a skimpy pair of panties
that leaves little to the imagination is usually a good
choice since he can get his hand inside of them easily. For
lingerie, a low cut babydoll makes a nice outfit for a
sweet and innocent sub. Most babydolls are loose
and very low cut, so it's easy for the straps to slide
off your shoulders and give him access to your breasts
and nipples. Also, make sure it's extremely short
so it's easy for him to get his hand under it without
having to fuss with a lot of extra material.
If you don't wan to appear quite so sweet or innocent,
or just to add a little more kink to the fun, 6ou can
wear an open cup bra with a matching open crotch panty. This will give your
Dom easy access to your nipples, your ass and your pussy
without having to remove the bra or panty at all!
Another popular option
is a bustier, a corset, or a merry widow. Corsets
that don't cover the breasts are very popular items in
bondage fantasies as a costume for both a female sub and
a Domme. As well as being sexy, there are some advantages to
choosing one a corset, bustier, merry widow, or even a
babydoll over being nude or wearing a bra and
panty.
Some women are self conscience about their bodies, and
since the lights are going to be on, rather than be nude
or wear a bra and panty, they would prefer wearing something
that helps to flatter their figure.
Adam & Eve,
Passions Unchained Sex Toys, and
Hustler Hollywood all offer a good selection of
sexy women's lingerie you can choose from.
A Dom can pretty much
wear anything as far as clothing, but if you really want
to look the part, try a Fetish Leather Shirt combined
with a pair of Leather Gay Locking Pants. There
are also a large selection of leather jock shorts
available that will enhance your Dominant appearance.
These are also good if you're playing the male sub in a
female-superior bondage fantasy. Just add a 'Gates of
Hell', an 'Arab Strap', a leather cock ring, or a
leather ball stretcher and you're ready to submit to
your Mistress' every command. If you're really
into leather, there are even Leather Fetish Men's Shorts
and Leather Fetish socks.
If leather just isn't your thing, there are plenty of
latex or polyester underwear for men. A black
polyester jock
or boxer with some studded details, or a faux leather
thong with a lace-up front will help you look more the
part more than just a plain pair of boxers or briefs. All of these and others are available in the Men's
Underwear section at
Passions Unchained Sex Toys.
If you think men don't
have as much of a choice for bondage clothing as women,
check out the various Men's Wear sections at
Passions Unchained Sex Toys. You can find a
variety of men's and women's wear in the 'Bondage,
Fetish and Kink' category, the 'Clothing
and Clubwear' category, and in the 'Costumes'
category.
"What's
the difference between the corset, bustier & merry widow?"
If you're not sure what
the difference is between a corset, a bustier and a
merry widow, don't feel alone. Most people don't
have a clue which one is which, and even the definitions
between them have become somewhat vague as manufacturers
create products that have features that cross over
between the three of them.
Why are we
even spending so much time talking about the difference
between these pieces of lingerie? Because the bustier, the corset and
the merry widow are very popular choices as a costume
for a bondage fantasy, and people wanting to know the
difference between them is a frequently asked question.
If you're like the hundreds of other people reading
this, you probably get a little confused when it comes
to deciding whether to purchase a corset, a bustier, or
a merry widow, especially online, so to help clear up
the mystery between them, we not only explain the
difference in them, but also explain why so many items
that seem the same have different names... or why so
many items that seem different have the same name.
Originally designed as an
under-garment, the corset was popularized as an
outer-garment in the mainstream when pop star Madonna
wore one in her 2006 'Sorry' video, and a similar one
for her entrance at the Grammy Awards that same year.
The original corset worn in the video was based on a
reproduction of a circa 1900 Lilly corset in white
satin. The corset was altered by the manufacturer
to Madonna's requirements by having the opening in the
front changed to a specific length, and later dyed
purple for the video.
Corsets, bustiers, merry widows and variations of all
three are frequently worn as costumes by the actresses
in bondage videos and by the models in bondage photo
galleries, but most men and women have no idea what the difference is
between the them. They look almost identical, and
many manufacturers are breaking the 'rules' that
distinguish between them. While this adds to the
confusion and makes the terms corset, bustier and merry
widow somewhat interchangeable, it does offer buyers
more options when purchasing them.
The Corset and Bustier
The main difference between a true corset and a
true bustier is that a corset is designed to make
a woman look curvy by holding them in the waist. A corset has structure and is designed to
support and sculpt the body into a certain shape.
The bustier doesn't do this. The bustier is
basically a bra with a torso built into it, and is
primarily designed to work like a push-up bra to provide
added cleavage. The torso of the bustier may
gently shape the waist and can help smooth things out,
but the bustier doesn't sculpt the
body or help to thin the waist like a corset does.
This makes a bustier
better suited for hiding a problem waist to make for a
more flattering look rather than mold and shape the
torso for a desired look like a corset does. But a
corset doesn't have cups like a bra, so it doesn't offer
support for the breasts or enhance a woman's cleavage
like the bustier does.
Some guidelines that further distinguish a corset from a
bustier is that a corset is strapless, covers a woman's
body from the bust down to the hips, does not have
garters attached, and may or may not cover the breasts. A bustier
has shoulder straps, covers the body from the bust to
either just below the ribs or to the waist, has garters
attached, and ALWAYS covers the breasts. Many
manufacturers of mainstream lingerie label their
products based on these guidelines... but not always.
The Merry Widow
Some people consider the 'merry widow' to be an
exception to the rule for a corset not having bra-like
cups. The merry widow was first made in 1952 for
the film 'The Merry Widow' starring Lana Turner, and
looks like a corset with bra-like demi cups and garters.
But technically, a merry widow isn't a corset;
it's a corselet. A corselet is a piece of lingerie
that shares the elements of both a bra and a girdle, and
was designed as a substitute for wearing two separate
pieces of underwear; namely a bra with either a girdle
or a corset. In the '50s merry widows weren't very
comfortable. Lana Turner is reported to have said,
"I am telling you, the merry widow was designed by a
man. A woman would never do that to another woman."
Part of the reason is that every woman that wears the
same size dress doesn't have the same size breasts.
Since a merry widow is supposed to sculpt the body
and support the breasts, you have a body size and
a breast size to deal with in one piece of supportive,
and sometimes restrictive clothing.
The true
merry widow is seldom seen today because each one made
for a specific body size has to be made with multiple
breast and cup sizes. This means that for each
corset made based on a woman's body size or each bustier
made based on a woman's breast size, each merry widow
made in one body size also has to be made for different
bra sizes, and each one of those has to be made to
accommodate different cup sizes. While this kind
of variety may be feasible in the bra market or as an
unattractive 'body shaper', the true merry widow isn't a
common enough item for manufacturers to produce that
large of a variety of them. A true merry widow
usually has to be custom made to match a woman's body,
breast and cup size, and can be extremely expensive.
It's much easier, and cheaper, to use a stretch fabric
to accommodate a variety of breast sizes, or more
commonly use the term merry widow to describe an item
that would be more accurately defined as a bustier.
Today's version of a mass produced merry widow is often called
a
'body shaper' and is made from stretchable nylon and
lycra. This allows them t sculpt the body and
support the breasts, but these body shapers aren't what anyone
would consider sexy, and would not be anyone's choice as
a costume for a bondage fantasy... or any other sexual
fantasy for that matter!
The merry widows sold on adult sites are both sexy and
comfortable, but that's because they are designed more
for style rather than function. As a rule of
thumb, these are classified as merry widows simply
because they have shoulder straps, they cover the
breasts, and they have built in garters. They
flatter your body rather than shape it, and merry widows
made from materials like mesh usually offer no actual
breast support or body sculpting features of any kind.
Style Versus Function
The corsets and bustiers offered in the mainstream
lingerie stores tend to follow the rules more closely
when it comes to the function of a corset, bustier,
merry widow or body shaper, but the colors are usually
limited to solids, particularly white, and styles
definitely lack the sex appeal that the ones sold on
adult sites have. This is understandable because
these are functional under-garments, and like a bra or a
slip, they aren't suppose to stand out and be
visible under your clothes, or be sexy to look at.
Corsets and bustiers sold on the adult web sites tend to
focus more on the erotic aspect of fashion rather than
making sure the corset or bustier remains hidden under
the clothes. Many of them are still functional in
their design as well as sexy. The corsets still
offer body sculpting and support, and the bustiers still
have a built in bra, but they also stand out with bright
color combinations and lots of decorative lace, bows and
laces.
Moving away from function and focusing more on erotic
fashion, adult sites offer bustiers with demi cups that
offer less coverage over the breasts and more exposed
flesh, but still offer the function of a demi bra, and
corsets that stop at the waist rather than the hips,
offering little or none of the waist sculpting features
of an actual corset.
Moving even farther away from function, the adult web
sites carry leather and vinyl bustiers, halter bustiers
with an extremely deep-plunging neckline, sheer
lace see-through bustiers, 'peek-a-boo bustiers' that
leave the breasts fully exposed, satin merry widows that
offer little to no bra-like support, cupless merry
widows, and merry widows made from see-through sheer
mesh. Although these products are called corsets,
bustiers and merry widows, they are designed to flatter
your body and seldom offer the supportive features of
the actual products they are named for.
So why do manufacturers call these products corsets,
bustiers and merry widows when they don't follow the rules that
define what these items really are?
To satisfy consumer desires for erotic fashions,
manufacturers try to offer a wide variety of products. It
makes more sense to use a name of an existing product that has
some of the features of the new product rather than come up with
a new name every time they create a new product that varies from
the original in style or function.
Buying from the Mainstream or from and Adult Web Site
Many of the corsets and bustiers you can buy at a
mainstream lingerie store or lingerie web site are cute, and they
may offer more body shaping features than some of the ones sold on
an adult site. Many of these mainstream pieces might even be
acceptable for a female sub in a bondage fantasy, but most of the items lack the
raw sex appeal of the ones you can buy on
an adult web site.
If you're buying a corset or bustier to be a
Domme or Mistress in a bondage fantasy, you can forget all about
buying from the mainstream lingerie stores and web sites!
They don't offer anything that comes close to being as sexual
and erotic as the products the adult web sites carry.
Regardless of
whether your body is toned and tight, or you feel the need
to cover up some problem areas, when it comes to buying any kind
of lingerie for a role play fantasy, sex appeal should ALWAYS
be your number one priority. With this in mind, the
lingerie sold on the adult web sites are the ONLY way to go.
Fetish Wear by design
While an outfit for a
bondage fantasy can be created by mixing and matching
different pieces of lingerie, sometimes it's easier to
get a outfit that has been designed with a BDSM theme in
mind.
Many people that are heavy into the BDSM
lifestyle prefer exotic outfits made of leather and lace
with studs, chains and metal rings for laces designed
into the costume. But for many couples that just
enjoy incorporating a little playful bondage into their
sex lives once in a while, spending hundreds or even
thousands of dollars on these exotic costumes may not be
realistic.
Not to
worry. There are fetish wear outfits
available that not only give
you the BDSM 'look' you want for your bondage fantasies,
but the faux leather keeps the price reasonable.
You can get fetish wear outfits like the Medusa for
around $30 (available in the
Bondage, Fetish & Kink category).
Add a pair of genuine Ellie high
heel shoes or boots for about $30 to $50 (available in the
Shoes and Boots category)
and a good quality whip or paddle ($10 and up in the
Bondage, Fetish & Kink category)
and you can have a complete Dominatrix outfit for
less than $100! |
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Add a blindfold and wrist
restraints to a kinky black mesh open cup teddie or naughty mesh halter
to instantly become the perfect sub in your bondage fantasy. Slip into a sexy see through black club
dress to transform yourself into the Mistress that will have him begging
you for more! |
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Fetish
Outfits for men and women
for around $30
(shoes, boots, paddles and
whips not included) |
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Aphrodite: Women's
fetish gear, made of stretch faux leather open bust
bralette with nickel-plated studs, clasp closure in back
and adjustable halter strap. Includes crotchless thong.
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Cobra:
Women's fetish
gear, made of stretch faux leather teddy with
nickel-plated studs, completely open bust, g-string back
and Velcro collar.
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Medusa:
Women's fetish
gear, made of stretch faux leather open bust teddy with
nickel-plated studs, open crotch, g-string back and
elastic straps.
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Vamp:
Women's fetish
gear, made of stretch faux leather open bust teddy with
nickel-plated studs, g-string back and elastic straps
that tie behind the neck and back.
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Venus:
Women's fetish
gear, made of stretch faux leather bralette with
nickel-plated studs and elastic straps that tie behind
the neck and back. Includes thong.
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Barbarella: Women's
fetish gear, made from of stretch faux leather teddy
with nickel-plated studs, clasp closure in back,
g-string back and Velcro collar.
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Gladiator: Men's
fetish gear harness, made with 82% nylon and 18% spandex
with sturdy wet-look nylon straps and solid studs.
Features studded pouch, studded collar and three body
straps, and sturdy steel 'O' rings for attaching leads,
locks or whatever takes your fancy!
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Tormentor: Men's
fetish gear harness, made with 82% nylon and 18% spandex
and designed for comfort and erotic appeal. A wonderful
addition to your fetish wardrobe!
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Warrior:
Men's fetish gear,
made of 85% nylon / 15% spandex with studs and rings is
a great fun that will get you all the attention you
desire.
Available in
Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large. |
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Body Harnesses : Whips,
Paddles
Restraints : Chastity : Blindfolds
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Bondage Sex Toys |
Gags : Furniture
: Electrical : Medical
Collars : Leashes : Latex |
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Fetish Wear :
Garter Belts:
Pasties
Bustiers & Corsets : Camisoles : Bridal |
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Erotic Lingerie |
Bra :
Panties : Boyshorts
Stockings : Panty Hose : Plus Sizes |
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